Yep, I've tried doing it away from any Bluetooth stuff, so the only thing it should find is the In Ear thingy, but it doesn't

Short of putting the two together and stamping on them both, I can't work out why it won't "see" the other one.

The In Ear thing is turned on, the phone bluetooth is on, yet they won't talk.

Thing most frustrating as they are both Nokias, around a year or so old max. Can't get why they'll both Bluetooth with other items but not themselves.

Might head off to Tesco and buy a real cheap crappy In Ear device and see if that will connect to the N95.

Thanks Nick, your idea is the type of thing I need