it is a long time together to loose, no point any of us sayong snap out of it, do what you have to do, drink and smoke what you have to, but make sure you get to work ontime and pay all your bills, rely on your friends as you will now need them more than ever, treat yourself to a new toy, just do what you have to do but carefully, certainly dont hassle her or keep calling texting her, leave it alone, it will shock her and make her wonder why, reverse pshycology often works in these cercumstance, make a plan and stick to it she may come back, if she wants you to shout and be angry do it, your a man not a mouse, maybe thats what she wants of you, deep down all women need a certain degree of it