bollox - you will get more than insecure as youve pulled yourself something worthwhile who 'seems' to be all that youre after.... you fall head over... you have a relationship for a few years... she gets complacent... gets twitchy feet.... wont make the jump without setting up an exit plan first.... and then you REALLY find out what they're like!!

.....but like the murphys!!

PS - i saw my an ex up town last night.... I woulda dropped anyone i was with to go back with her (and i was one who finished it... ) she told me she's single.... dunno how much water you can get to flow under the bridge?!!