Found it, so here it is for anyone else interested:
Should Bosch, Siemens, Weber etc or indeed the software owner, (likely the vehicle OE not the manufacturer) choose to challenge this in a court of law, and win, they could then prove copyright infringement and stop us doing what we do, but until such a case happens, (And rumours have circulated for a long time that its about to) the owner of the vehicle can ask us to do whatever we like and we are altering his equipment with his consent, which of course adds the legal question was the owner at fault too? Its a minefield that the manufacturer's have chosen to avoid thus far
So the offiical line is that until one of the manufacturers points out that what people are doing is illegal, it wont be classed as such, and so can continue on here.
Thanks for the clarification then Stu