i solved it, i connected the remote to the 12v live red wire, now when stereo comes on amp comes on when stereo goes off stereo goess off awesome, but still got another problem lol

so i got the amp working and managed to get the sub working too, but the 6x9's got no sound coming from them. behind my dash i have like 4-5 leads coming from the amp. like 1 black 2 red 2 white, but on the back of my stereo i only have a slot for one white and one red????? any ideas?