harsh as fuck mate its killa not being with your kiddy mines 300 miles away my biggest fear was her not knowing am daddy but she does and when i see her she comes running with arms outstretched which for me is magic ignore her her life and what comes with and just be the best you can possibly be for your youngun he,ll know who you are as he gets older mate hes your blood that,ll never change and you do what you! feel is right she has no say in the way you bring him up thats upto you i wouldnt even tell her what hes eaten id just say hes been fed dont give her angles to pull your style of parenting apart