It constantly baffles me how mean and cruel some humans can be. So two people who were in love fell out of love - so what, big deal. Whether you like each other or not is completely irrelevant when it comes to a child, when both of you are the parent. How can one parent deny/manipulate access of the other parent to their own fucking child?

Okay fair enough, if the parent being exlcuded is excluded for good reason (drug addict, child abuser, rapist, criminal, etc etc etc) but when it's a "decent" human being that just wants to be a part of thier childs life, and be a father to them, then how in gods name can that access be discriminated against?

Then, with the limited access granted, how again, can someone dictate what can and can't be done - what food can and can't be eaten, what activity can and can't be chosen etc....

It fucking sickens me, and I feel sorry for the child most of all - being torn like a rag doll in a tug or war - and I can't understand how a mother (in this case) would be able to use a child as a "device" in this game of "get back at the ex-husband/boyfriend" - doens't show good intent as a good mother does it?

Granted I don't know all the facts about your particular scenario Ady, but this is all too common in this world.

My parents split, no fault on my mothers part (was my dads descision to leave) but fortunately I, and my siblings, are some of the lucky ones where my parents didn't feel the need to go to court for custody, or fight it out over how many hours whichever one is allowed to see them for - it was all settled amicably, and whilst my parents might not be on "normal" speaking turns, when they do converse at least it's pleasent and polite. My siblings choose when they want to see my dad, when he's about that is, and all is well. Maybe it's different as we are grown up now, we were younger at the time, with my two sisters being pretty young when it all went down, but still.....

I just never understand that two people who are so much in love at one time, so much so they get married, have children etc, can then turn and be so utterly vicious and cruel......