Originally Posted by Fraggle Rock

Please before you scoff and mock me, read what I have to say first!

Hi, as a newbie and my first post I thought I felt the need to vent off some anger and ask the question that why do long term relationships turn sour when one of the couple, have had enough and break up.

I've been in a relationship for a very long time now and my partner decided to move out a few months ago saying that they didnt love me anymore and that there life had been hell and I controlled them, even though there was no indication at all. They just got up and left when I went away for work one day and cleared all their belongs out. I mean we use to have arguements like every couple does and a few times I felt I couldnt handle it and wanted to finish it myself, due to them not communicating at times and bottling it up, but I felt that the rough times could be smoothed out like they always had been.

As far as I know theres no-one else involved, although when my ex left the children went with them and the kids dont seem to want to know me now. I dont know if its because they been told all the bad things about me and ex wants to hurt me more than they have up to now.

Anyway the long and short of it seems that although we have been talking on quite a regular basis in the past few weeks or so and have even spent the odd weekend together when her parents have looked after the kids, they seem to turn cold for no reason at all, why?!?

My ex has stated that although they dont love me, they do want me in their life and hopefully in time we can become a couple again and for them to love me again as there are very strong feelings for me, but there seems no light at the end of the tunnel. Though a couple of things seem very strange to me.

For one when their family is about they will drop me and go with them and their attitude to me completly changes and they have also said that they are getting used to the idea of living on their own (in other words, without me). Their are financial implications involved in the house I live in now and about £45k profit it in now after working 11 years or so.

I feel like I can offer them the world and get I seem to get nothing in return. They will only see me when its convenient to them. I end up dropping everything to be with them. My question is:

Do I walk away and make my own life?

It has got to the stage where I feel like ending my own life everyday as my world has been ripped in 2. I have never felt this low and am at my wits end. My friends have drifted away stating they dont want to get involved, but that leaves me feeling more than useless and having no-one to talk too. To make matters worse my partner even though they didnt really like my friends (male and female) has had contact them every now and again and occasionally go out with them, which puts them on the spot!

It feels like my ex has got me by the jugular and is controlling me to their every whim and is playing with my emotions. I cannot seem to say no to them nor am I brave enough to walk away. My best friend killed themself after a seriously bad failed relationship and now I can understand why I feel like doing it myself!!!!!!!!!