someone mentioned the "not getting over it" thing...

in my experience, the people who never get over it, are ones who were somehow going out with a minter, well out of their league, and as they cant ever get spawny enough to get another one like that.

so....

make sure you get on (dont have to be with, putting it in her will probly do, lol) someone (or lots, thatl help) at least as fit, help you get over it, stop you thinking the "she was the best girl ever, my god its all downhill from here" type thoughts which people get UNTIL they get on someone at least as fit.

id not keep on n on at her tho to try get her back, if its over its over, providing she knows u didnt want it to end, leave it as that, dont make yourself look desperate as in most cases thas jus gona drive her further away.

id go get myself on some birds asap, or at least try keep away from her for a while, as if you saw or heard bout her even kissin someone else, and youve NOT done similar, its gona make you feel even worse, and its just life that girls are the ones who gets cracked onto, so more likely without trying to have contact with the opposite sex.

im not trying to be harsh, im trying to give you some real world advice, its just really difficult in these situations without sounding a bit harsh.

BTW i asked about the age and how long been together thing, as ive yet to ever see a relationship (with a fit bird at least) where the girl started going out with whoever at 18 or less, and it worked out, and carried on much past say 21 or so, as usualy the girls freak out after a while with the old "oh my god, im this young and harldy lived and nigh on married already, i wana go out n do all the things while im still young" it sucks ass, but i think most people would feel the same.
(infact now i think about it, 2 of my own longterm relationships in the past ended for similar reasons. 1st one was rough, 2nd one i learnt from mistakes and had shagged about 10 people behind her back anyhow, lol).

Even worse when the blokes a bit older and have already had his fun.

It happens to everyone at some point tho mate, seems rough as fuck at mo, but it will get better, depending how you deal with it depends how soon it will, but IT WILL