We have lost 2 cats now within around a year of each other. I have to say that I am grateful that I had help and they they weren't injured too badly, just killed outright.

The first one was killed by a chav dickhead that had been roaring up and down my road all day. Luckily, there was a helpful guy around who helped me sort it all out, but I still had to hose the road down. Believe me, that fooking hurts.

The second one got knocked down and luckily someone my Mum knew moved him off the road and phoned us. I had to carry him home. That was awful too, he was so heavy, much heavier than when I normally picked him up and it had clearly only just happened. His eyes were still glistening and I really didn't know if he was still alive.

We are SO SO attached to our cats and I am not too bold to admit that losing mine absolutely destroyed me. For days I didn't know how I would get over it. But with time it does get easier, it really does. I still think about it alot though. It's been over a year now since we lost the second one and the cat that we still have is so lonely, but we are only now considering getting another pair of kittens. He has needed the company and thats the main reason we are doing it.

I think you should not talk about getting a Kitten yet, that might come across as a little insensitive, but after a couple of weeks, mention it and see how she takes it.

I still have an ongoing burden about the second cat that we lost as we buried him in the garden, but its right where we need to carry out some work. There is NO way I could dig there and I don't really know what to do, but it is quite important.