Well Matt,
As in the PM's to me you are obviously a very good drummer and knowledgable on the subject too!
Why dont you teach and at the same time start your own buisness selling kits and accessories? Or isnt the market good enough? Other than that id say find a band and get gigging again
BTW I get lied to all the time where i work...runs with the trade...but i admire ya for sticking by what ya believe in