What proof is there that you've verbally abused her ? Have you ever hit her or displayed any voilence towards her ? If not, then to my mind why would a judge take any action against you without evidence ?

The old man sounds like a cum stain to be honest and if he's a legal man he should know better.

As for work, if it was me I'd tell them what's going on. Pre-empt any problem by letting them know the score first. If she feels sick about being round you then she should get another job. Jealousy mate..........