Clare - no.

I lent her the money on the proviso she paid off her debts and then paid me back. I didn't lend it to her so when she gets a bonus she bins it (which despite what she's told me is what I think she's done) and doesn't even think it might be good manners to at least tell me.......and like I said it wouldn't usually be my business but when she owes ME money it is !!

It's not the money - it's the principle.