Right, problem number one is that XP pro is better then Home
on the main pc, click start -> run and type in cmd, press enter

then, type in ping DOWNSTAIRS PC and see if it communicates.
What have you made it so difficult for yourself ??
My network is called RS, main pc is called Buffy and the laptop is called Willow Took me less then 10 minuties to do mine and all communicate fine