bad news :(
16-09-2007, 04:00 PM
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bad news :(
mate of nine called up a short while ago with some very bad news
one of my best mates died this afternoon from a suspected heart attack
he was only 32
he leaves behind a wife and 3 year old son
i'm genuinely shocked and have been bumbling about in a bit of a daze since i heard the news, i picked up a socket set and wandered off down the road, for no reason, so i came back and put it away again
sitting here now, just thinking, and i don't know what to think about, for the first time in a long while, i just don't know what to do
can't go to the hospital as it's too soon, can't go round anyones house as it's not he done thing to do, can't call anyone ebecause they won't know what's happened either
just stuck here waiting for some news to come through
he was one of the fittest guys i knew, never snoked, hardly ever drank nowadays either, had a nice job and a loving family, he was one of those guys who you could say honestly didn't have a bad word to say about anyone, and noe one had a bad word to say about him either, ican't rememebr anyone every having a bad word to say about him because he was always the nice guy who would help you out if you were in trouble, who would come round and help out if you asked him too, he was the guy who would take everyones pictures at the party and then send them out via email, even though it wasn't really his job to do it, he spent loads of time with his family and had his whole life planned out perfectly, he was one of those guys hwo you thought "he's done well that lad, he deserves all the happiness he's got in his life"
and now it's all gone, just like that, in the blink of an eye
i want to laugh when i remember all the good times we had, i want to cry when i think about how hard it's going to be for his parents, who have already lost a son who was murdered a few years back, i think baout the frustration his mates who he was playing hockey with must feel as they loaded him into the ambulance knowing he still had a pulse, i feel helplessness knowing that all i can do is offer my condolences to his family
and i feel an emptyness knowing that he won't be around anymore
rip jas, i loved you like a brother
one of my best mates died this afternoon from a suspected heart attack
he was only 32
he leaves behind a wife and 3 year old son
i'm genuinely shocked and have been bumbling about in a bit of a daze since i heard the news, i picked up a socket set and wandered off down the road, for no reason, so i came back and put it away again
sitting here now, just thinking, and i don't know what to think about, for the first time in a long while, i just don't know what to do
can't go to the hospital as it's too soon, can't go round anyones house as it's not he done thing to do, can't call anyone ebecause they won't know what's happened either
just stuck here waiting for some news to come through
he was one of the fittest guys i knew, never snoked, hardly ever drank nowadays either, had a nice job and a loving family, he was one of those guys who you could say honestly didn't have a bad word to say about anyone, and noe one had a bad word to say about him either, ican't rememebr anyone every having a bad word to say about him because he was always the nice guy who would help you out if you were in trouble, who would come round and help out if you asked him too, he was the guy who would take everyones pictures at the party and then send them out via email, even though it wasn't really his job to do it, he spent loads of time with his family and had his whole life planned out perfectly, he was one of those guys hwo you thought "he's done well that lad, he deserves all the happiness he's got in his life"
and now it's all gone, just like that, in the blink of an eye
i want to laugh when i remember all the good times we had, i want to cry when i think about how hard it's going to be for his parents, who have already lost a son who was murdered a few years back, i think baout the frustration his mates who he was playing hockey with must feel as they loaded him into the ambulance knowing he still had a pulse, i feel helplessness knowing that all i can do is offer my condolences to his family
and i feel an emptyness knowing that he won't be around anymore
rip jas, i loved you like a brother
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16-09-2007, 04:14 PM
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Re: bad news :(
Sad news mate.
Course you can Dojj. That's what family and friends are for. 
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can't go round anyones house as it's not he done thing to do,
16-09-2007, 04:19 PM
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Really Sorry To Hear
Hi there Big guy, truly feel for you and now what its like to loose a good mate.
Was out last june on my bike with a group, my mate Navy Dave was 30 and just been promoted to Captain on HMS Enterprise, he over took this guy on the bude road and as Dave did this, the guy turned on him, Dave hit the van at 70 the guy in the van fooked off and left Dave to Die.
I remember bing just so shell shocked and empty and just crying like i have never cried before. I think about Dave all the time.
Just remember your mate and all the good times you have and be there for his family if needed.
He sounded a truly special guy.
All the best fella
Gareth
Was out last june on my bike with a group, my mate Navy Dave was 30 and just been promoted to Captain on HMS Enterprise, he over took this guy on the bude road and as Dave did this, the guy turned on him, Dave hit the van at 70 the guy in the van fooked off and left Dave to Die.
I remember bing just so shell shocked and empty and just crying like i have never cried before. I think about Dave all the time.
Just remember your mate and all the good times you have and be there for his family if needed.
He sounded a truly special guy.
All the best fella
Gareth
16-09-2007, 04:48 PM
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i'm just sitting here, looking at the mobile, not wanting to go anywhere just in case it rings with some news
i know i can take it with me where ever i go but it just doesn't make sense, what would i do? where would i go?
i've waitied for my folks to come home so i could tell them face to face, my wife was with me when i got the call, i've text my brother in dublin, i've even told my boss so that i'll get a day off for his funeral
now i've just got to sit here feeling useless
it's an indian thing, we've got to observe all sorts of protocols in these sorts of situations so we can't go round to the house until we've been informed that there is going to be the official mourning ceremony taking place, that'll take a few days, then there'll be the cremation a few days afterwards
i know that they will perform an autopsy to find out the cause of death but it's customary to pu the body to the torch within a week so they may speed things up under these circumstances
i'll stop now because i'll just waffle on to kill time, what a strange way to put it, no one knows how much time we have left on this earth and here i am waiting with 101 things to get going on with
when my mate and granny died withint 4 hours of each other of the same thing (fibrosis of the lungs leading to them not being able to take in enough oxygen to keep them functioning, granny sucumbed to old age, my mate sent his brother away while he turned over and basicly drowned in his own bodily fluids, he had cancer and was already missing most of the lower part of his body and wanted to go out with his dignity intact rather than waste away) they were deaths that we were aware of, if there is such a thing that makes sense
we were aware that granny was suffering and had wasted away to less than 6 stone and was bed ridden and couldn't go anywhere without her oxygen line and wheelchair
we were also aware that rush had cancer, he'd beaten it 4 years earlier but it came back and started at his spine and it all went realy bad real quick, he was a battler but he made us aware that he didn't want to be seen in such a state by anyone other than his family so the next time we saw him was in his coffin
but this has just knocked me silly
i'm going to go for a walk to clear my head
i know i can take it with me where ever i go but it just doesn't make sense, what would i do? where would i go?
i've waitied for my folks to come home so i could tell them face to face, my wife was with me when i got the call, i've text my brother in dublin, i've even told my boss so that i'll get a day off for his funeral
now i've just got to sit here feeling useless
it's an indian thing, we've got to observe all sorts of protocols in these sorts of situations so we can't go round to the house until we've been informed that there is going to be the official mourning ceremony taking place, that'll take a few days, then there'll be the cremation a few days afterwards
i know that they will perform an autopsy to find out the cause of death but it's customary to pu the body to the torch within a week so they may speed things up under these circumstances
i'll stop now because i'll just waffle on to kill time, what a strange way to put it, no one knows how much time we have left on this earth and here i am waiting with 101 things to get going on with
when my mate and granny died withint 4 hours of each other of the same thing (fibrosis of the lungs leading to them not being able to take in enough oxygen to keep them functioning, granny sucumbed to old age, my mate sent his brother away while he turned over and basicly drowned in his own bodily fluids, he had cancer and was already missing most of the lower part of his body and wanted to go out with his dignity intact rather than waste away) they were deaths that we were aware of, if there is such a thing that makes sense
we were aware that granny was suffering and had wasted away to less than 6 stone and was bed ridden and couldn't go anywhere without her oxygen line and wheelchair
we were also aware that rush had cancer, he'd beaten it 4 years earlier but it came back and started at his spine and it all went realy bad real quick, he was a battler but he made us aware that he didn't want to be seen in such a state by anyone other than his family so the next time we saw him was in his coffin
but this has just knocked me silly
i'm going to go for a walk to clear my head
18-09-2007, 06:55 PM
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post mortem resluts have come through and he had too big a heart, quite literaly, it was too big in it's muscle size which was constricting the blood supply that was axctually being pumped and one of the valves just gave up under the strain
his mum and dad didn't even know who came to see them yesterday so the lads are meeting up tonight to remenice about how good a fellow he was
funeral is next week and we've all been shamed because another one of our friends who passed a few years ago from cancer left behind a wife and 18 month old and we said we'd not forget them and we have
his mum and dad didn't even know who came to see them yesterday so the lads are meeting up tonight to remenice about how good a fellow he was
funeral is next week and we've all been shamed because another one of our friends who passed a few years ago from cancer left behind a wife and 18 month old and we said we'd not forget them and we have
18-09-2007, 08:08 PM
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WHEN YOU HEAR STORIES LIKE THIS IT MAKES ME FUCKING ANOYED THAT ALL THE DECENT PEOPLE WITH LOVING AND A WELL LOVED PERSON CAN BE TAKEN AWAY!! AND ALL THE JUNKIE,THIEVING,MURDURERS SCUMBAGS, CARRY ON IN LIFE WITH NO WORRIES AND NOTHING EVER HAPPENS TO THEM!!!!! 
R.I.P.
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19-09-2007, 08:49 AM
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Sorry to hear of your Loss Singh. .....................
Did this happen at a hockey game??? as a Singh passed away on the pitch with a heart attack over the week end, was told he was 30-34, come from southall ways?
Again sorry to hear about your loss Bro.....
Sunny
.....................Did this happen at a hockey game??? as a Singh passed away on the pitch with a heart attack over the week end, was told he was 30-34, come from southall ways?
Again sorry to hear about your loss Bro.....
Sunny
19-09-2007, 10:29 AM
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Originally Posted by RS220Turbo
Sorry to hear of your Loss Singh. .....................
Did this happen at a hockey game??? as a Singh passed away on the pitch with a heart attack over the week end, was told he was 30-34, come from southall ways?
Again sorry to hear about your loss Bro.....
Sunny
.....................Did this happen at a hockey game??? as a Singh passed away on the pitch with a heart attack over the week end, was told he was 30-34, come from southall ways?
Again sorry to hear about your loss Bro.....
Sunny
they had a littel gathering for him yesterday at featherstone hockey pitch and there was a good turn out
gave his stick to his son too, and to see him knocking the ball about bought a tear to my eye, happy tear, but still..........
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